The second level of communication is talking about us: our money, our children, our relatives, our plans for the future... For example, a husband can discuss with his wife questions such as: What school should our children attend?
Should we ask my cousin to stay with us? Should we buy a new car?
One day Abner and Lydia were discussing about his mother.As they were discussing,they started quarreling.In that case, what should they do? They should continue talking until they reach agreement.But Abner and Lydia didn't do that. Instead, they stopped talking before reaching agreement.
And after that they thought, " To avoid another quarrel, we must never talk about 'his mother."
Later they had a quarrel about ' money.' Again they stopped talking before reaching agreement.So, they had to begin avoiding that topic too.
After some years they had many topics which they couldn't mentioned to each other.
That killed their communication.
Husband and wife should not allow quarrels to kill their communication.Instead, let's discuss each subject in a kind way. And if we begin to quarrel, let's continue talking kindly until we agreed on a decision.
