Marriagetips: Discuss about each other

 The second level of communication is talking about us: our money, our children, our relatives, our plans for the future... For example, a husband can discuss with his wife questions such as: What school should our children attend?

Should we ask my cousin to stay with us? Should we buy a new car?

One day Abner and Lydia were discussing about his mother.As they were discussing,they started quarreling.In that case, what should they do? They should continue talking until they reach agreement.But Abner and Lydia didn't do that. Instead, they stopped talking before reaching agreement.

And after that they thought, " To avoid another quarrel, we must never talk about 'his mother."

Later they had a quarrel about ' money.' Again they stopped talking before reaching agreement.So, they had to begin avoiding that topic too.

After some years they had many topics which they couldn't mentioned to each other. 

That killed their communication.

Husband and wife should not allow quarrels to kill their communication.Instead, let's discuss each subject in a kind way. And if we begin to quarrel, let's continue talking kindly until we agreed on a decision.

Current Affairs: Notable Dates In Nigeria's History

 Precolonial Era!

In 19th century Bronzes was found at the town of Igbo-Ukwu are created.

Then in 10th century, Nri Kingdom begins.

11th century Borno was established as an Islamic States.

Reaching 15th century Hausa Kingdoms in the north was established as nominally Muslim States.

1472- Portuguese navigators reach Nigerian coast.

Then early 19th century Sokoto Caliphate went to war with the Yoruba States.

Middle to late 19th century, Christian Missionary activity began in Southern Nigeria.

Bible Gist: The First Man And Women

 What is different in this picture? Yes,it is the people in it.

They are the first man and woman.Who made them?

It was Good.Do you know his name? It is Jehovah. And the man and woman came to be called Adam and Eve.

This is how God made Adam.He took some dust from the ground and with it he formed a perfect body,a man's body.Then he blew into the man's nose, and Adam came to life.

God had a job for Adam.He told Adam to name all the different kinds of animals.Adam  may have watched the animals for a long time so he could pick the best names for them all.

While Adam was naming the animals he began to see something.Do you know what that was?

The animals all of them had mate. There were papa elephants and mama elephants, and there were papa Lions and mama Lions . But Adam had no one to be his mate.So God made Adam to fall into a deep sleep, and he took a rib bone from his side.

Using this rib, Jehovah God made a woman for Adam, and she became his wife.

How happy Adam was now! And think how happy Eve must have been to put in such a beautiful garden to live.

Marriagetips: Is not good for a man to be alone

 Whenever Joe has problem,he will say to himself, " I won't tell my wife how discouraged I feel today.

I'm a man.My wife must not think that I can't handle my problems."

It's not good for a man to be alone.according to Genesis 2:18.

A man and wife are no longer two.They are one. According to Mathew 19:6.

What are the Barriers to communication?

In Europe, Asia, Africa, America and everywhere else, many couples fail to communicate.Why? Because they allow barriers to stop their communication; barriers such as 'fear,' 'too busy,' and so on.

Let's talk about Fear!

It's a sad that some husbands make their wives fear them. Fear use to destroy communication.God says a wife must " Submit" to her husband, but not " FEAR" him.

Wive, submit to your husband.according to Ephesians 5: 22.

There's no fear in love.Love removes fear.according to 1 John 4:18.

Too Busy!

For Example : Dan and his wife.

Dan says, " My wife and I are so busy with our jobs and with church,we have no time to communicate." I advised you to take time to communicate,no matter what.

Don't be overly busy.Eliminate some of your activities.And find ways to serve God together.

Not Listening!

Another barrier to communicate is failure to listen.Sometimes when Carol is speaking,I think of something I want to say.

As she is talking, I'm waiting for a chance to tell her my great idea. But while I'm waiting, I'm not listening.

Or sometimes when she is talking,I see that she is mistaken about some small point. While she is Speaking, I'm planning  the words I will use to correct her.

But while I'm planning, I'm not listening.

Whenever Carol is speaking, I should focus my mind on her. I should really listen.Then, If  I'm still not sure what she means, I should ask, "Are you saying.....or do you mean.......?"

So each time your husband/ wife communicate with you you have to be careful to listen. Not listening kills communication.

Marriagetips: Talk About Our Feelings

 In this level we open the door of our heart,in order to allow our marriage partner to see and know our feelings.

This an example of married couples, one day Stephen told his wife, " Today my brother got angry and shouted at me.And my father supported him."

Then Stephen and his wife discussed how this problem could be solved.After that his Wife asked, "But how do you feel now?' Stephen replied, "I feel worried. I fear that our family relationships will decline. I also feel hurt because.our joys are doubled because the happiness of one becomes the happiness of the order.

And our burdens are cut  in half since we share the load.

Current Affairs: The Fourth Coup

 The Fourth Coup was on 13th February 1976, Six months later, Lieutenant-colonel Bukur Suka Dimka with his loyalist stage an abortive coup which claimed the lives of three officers; General Murtala Muhammad, Head of State, Cool.Ibrahim Taiwo, Governor of Kwara State and Lt. Akintunde Akinsehinwa, ADC to Muhammed.

The fifth Coup was on 31 December 1983, General Buhari Muhammadu stage a coup which sacked the Shehu Shagari's administration.

This coup led to the death of a loyal officer to the government,Brigadier Ibrahim Bako.

The Sixth Coup was 27 August 1985, That was when General Ibrahim Babangida led a palace coup which terminated the Buhari's 20 months reign.

The Seventh Coup was in 1986, That was when Major- General Mamman Vatsa led an abortive coup to overthrown the government of President Babangida.That same year,he and other 10 military officers were tried and wre executed in March 1986.

The Eight Coup was in 22 April 1990, That was when Gideon Orka stage an abortive coup to unseat the government of Ibrahim Babangida.

Current Affairs: The History Of Coup D'ETAT In Nigeria

 First Military Coup was on January 15,1966, Chukwuma Kaduna Nzeogwu led the first ever- Military Coup in Nigeria that let to the death of Sir Ahmadu Bello, the Sardauna of Sokoto and premier of Northern Nigeria, Chief S.I Akintola, the premier of Western Region,Sir Abubakar Tafawa Belewa, the Prime Minister of Nigeria, Chief Festus Okotie-Eboh, Federal Minister of Finance and other Military officers.

The Second Coup was on 29th July, 1966, Six months after the first coup plot,three young military officers of Northern background led by Lieutenant Colonel Murtala Muhammad staged a counter coup to even the score.

This led to the death of Major General J.T.U. Aguyi Ironsi, Head of State,Cool. Francis Adekunle Fajuyi Military Governor, Western region and other military officers. General Yakubu Gowon was then sworn in as the military Head of State.

The third Coup was in July 1975- A group of Colonel sacked the Government of Genery Yakubu Gowon in a bloodlesycoup.

General Murtala Muhammad also Mastermind this coup.No live we're lost. General Murtala Muhammad assumed poweiin July 1975.

Bible Gist: Beautiful Garden

 Look at the earth here! How pretty everything is! Look at the grass and the trees, the flowers and all the animals.

Can you pick out the elephant and the Lions?

How did this beautiful garden come to be? Well, let's see how God got the earth ready for us.. First,God made green grass to cover the land.and he made all kinds of small plants and bushes and trees.

These growing things help to make the earth pretty.But they do more than that.Many of them also give us foods that taste very good. God later made fish to swim in the water and birds to fly in the sky.

God also made dogs and cats and horses; big animals and small animals.What animals live near your home? Shouldn't we be glad that God made all these things for us.

According to Genesis 1:11-25; 2:8,9.

Marriagetips: Communication/Love

 Your marriage will become more romantic as you choose to communicate with each other, and love each other unselfishly.

Communication: some people, " A real man doesn't need to communicate with his wife." But the fact is : A man will begin to enjoy marriage more when he realizes, " it's good for me to talk freely with my wife.As I communicate with her,we understand each other; our home grows more loving; and our bed times more exciting."

Yes, every husband and wife need to communicate.

There are three levels of communication.Perhaps right now the communication in your marriage is zero.

Don't worry.You and your husband/wife can inprove your marriage life.

Marriagetips:He loves my body, but does he love me?

 Dear Bruce and Carol, Bruce is husband to Carol, Carol complain that her husband did not love her?

She said, My husband asks me for sex often, but I don't enjoy it much.Why? Because I feel he doesn't love me.

Each afternoon when we arrived home from work,I want to talk with him.I want to tell him all about my day, and I want to hear about his.But he asks me no questions and shows no interest in what I have been doing or how I m feeling.

Instead of talking with me,he will just tells me: 'Bring me tea!' and ' Make that kid be quite!'

Then when we get into bed,he wants me to feel sexy.I give him sex.

But my heart is not in it because I feel he doesn't care about me.He just enjoys using my body to satisfy himself.He finishes in only two minutes.

Then he immediately falls asleep.And I feel like crying because I realized: My husband thinks I'm a body with no person inside.Often I asked myself, "Why doesn't he talk with me?

Why does he hide his thoughts from me? Why doesn't he ever ask about mine? Does he loves me?" Sarah said!

Can Sarah and her husband ever have a great marriage?

Yes!

The first thing they need is: Communication/love."Communication" means talking with each other freely.

"Love"means unselfish care for the other.

The second thing they need is : Advise on Sex.This book explains both Communication/Love and sex.