Marriagetips: Hurt

 While waiting for the bus,Ruth remembered, "Abel scolded me this y, and he seemed very unloving."

She felt hurt.The hurt was small.Abel had not shouted; yet his voice seemed cold and bitter.

As she continued thinking about it, the hurt grew.She remembered other times when he had hurt her.

Finally she asked herself, " What should I do about this hurt? If I try to hide it,my communication with Abel this evening will be just half hearted.Under the surface I will still feel hurt.

Perhaps I should wait for Abel to say, ' sorry.'

No that won't work because he may not realize that he hurt me. There's only one answer:I must talk with him about the hurt.I will speak honestly, and also respectfully."

That evening when she and Abel were alone,Ruth said softly,"Dear,I think I should let you know that your words this hurt me.

In fact, I've felt hurt All day.Now I feel ashamed for letting such a small thing bother me so much."

After Abel apologized,they were able to communicate and enjoy their evening together.If Ruth had tried to hide the hurt, what kind of evening and bed time would they have had?

Marriage Tips: The Father Role And The Mother Role

 The experience of Luke and Priscilla when the were newly married! When Luke and Priscilla got married they were communicating very well.

Both of them had the feeling," What joy.... Just to speak with each other freely about everything!"

Then their children were born. Soon Priscilla was busy caring for the kids.Luke was busy earning money for them.

And they began to neglect their communication with each other. So their friendship cooled. Now their marriage is nothing more than sharing a house and raising kids.

That kind of marriage is boring. To  make marriage romantic, the husband must not become so busy earning money that he fails to communicate with his wife and the wife must not get so busy as a mother that she neglect communicating with her husband.

Sports update: Real Madrid has opened the exit door

 Even though Real Madrid have opened the exit door to Eden Hazard this January, Hazard who is 31 year old is not yet ready to leave.

Hazard has remained firm in his stance that he wants to see out the 2021/2022 season at the Estadio Santiago Bernabeu, even if he hasn't had as many minutes as he would like.

With just 722 this season, Hazard ranked 17th for minutes in Carlo Ancelotti's squad.

He has provided two assists and yet to score, making this yet another disappointing campaign.

Last week, he didn't step on to the pitch at all in the Supercopa de Espana semi-final or final, with Vinicius having made the left wing his own and with Rodrigo,Marco Asensio and even Federal Valverde preferred to the former Chelsea man on the right.

Some good performances at the end of 2021 suggested Hazard had turned a corner, but there has been another half and setback with the supercopa.

Current Affairs: Colonial Era

 In 1850s that was when British established presence around Lagos.

In 1859 I we Iroyin, Nigeria's first newspaper was established.

1880 to 1905 Southern Nigeria was conquered most of Northern Nigeria including the Sokoto Caliphate.1912 that was when Lord Lugard, Governor of Northern Nigeria established a system of indirect rule. 

In the year 1914 Northern Nigeria and Southern Nigeria were amalgamated to form Nigeria. 

Then in September 20,1923 The Nigerian national Democratic party became the first political party in Nigeria.The first political election was conducted afterwards.

Reaching 1946 to 1960 Nigeria entered a period of decolonization as Nigerian nationalism grows.1950 The conference of Northern  and Southern delegate held in Ibadan.

1953-The London conference, regarding Nigeria's Federal fomula, took place.

10th, June. 1956 oil was first discovered in Nigeria at Oloibin in Bayelsa state.

In 1957 The Nigeria held it's constitutional conference.

1958- The Nigeria flag was designed by Michael Taiwo Akinkunmi.

In 1959- Nigeria held it's First national election to setup an independent government.Northern Nigeria wins most of the seat of parliament.

Reaching July 1,1959 The Central Bank of Nigeria started operation.

Marriagetips: The Barriers to communication

 In Europe, Asia, Africa, America and everywhere else, many couples fail to communicate.Why? Because they allow barriers to stop their communication; barriers such as 'fear,' ' too busy, and so on.

Fear!

It's a sad fact that some husbands make their wives fear them.

Fear destroys communication.God said a wife must " submit to her husband, but not " fear" him.

Wives, submit to your husband's.according to Ephesians.5:22

There is no fear in love.Love removes Fear. 1 John.4:18.

Marriagetips: Husband and Wife talking about feelings

 So in this level husband and wife open the door of our heart, allowing our marriage partner to see and know our feelings.

Example, concerning Stephen and his wife, Stephen told his wife," Today my brother got angry and shouted at me.And my father supported him."

Then Stephen and his wife discussed how this problem could be solved.

After that his wife asked," But how do you feel now?"

Stephen replied," I feel worried.I fear that our family relationships will decline.  I also feel hurt because...."

Why Did Adam and Eve Lost Their Home

 If you look at this picture you will see what is happening.

Adam and his wife Eve are being put out of the beautiful garden of Eden.Do know why?

It is because they did something very bad. And so God Jehovah is punishing them.

What is the bad thing Adam and Eve did? They did something Good told them not to do.God told them they could eat food from the trees of the garden.

But from one tree God said not to eat,or else they would die. He kept that tree as his own. 

And we know it is wrong to take something that belongs to someone else, don't we? What happened now?

One day when Eve was alone in the garden,a snack spoke to her. Think of that! It told Eve to eat fruit from the tree from which God told them not to eat. Now, when God made snacks he did not make them so they could talk.

So this can only mean that someone else was making the snack to speak.Who was that?

It wasn't Adam.So it had to be one of the persons that God had made long before he made the earth.

Those persons are angels, and we cannot see them.this one Angel had become very proud.He began thinking that he should be a ruler like God.

And he wanted people to obey him instead of obeying Jehovah God. He was the angel that made the snack talk.

This angel was able to convince Eve.When he told her that she would become like God if she ate the fruit, she believed it. So she ate, and Adam did too.Adam and Eve disobeyed God, and that is why they lost their beautiful garden home.

According to Gen 2:16,17; 3:1-13,24;

Marriagetips: Discuss about each other

 The second level of communication is talking about us: our money, our children, our relatives, our plans for the future... For example, a husband can discuss with his wife questions such as: What school should our children attend?

Should we ask my cousin to stay with us? Should we buy a new car?

One day Abner and Lydia were discussing about his mother.As they were discussing,they started quarreling.In that case, what should they do? They should continue talking until they reach agreement.But Abner and Lydia didn't do that. Instead, they stopped talking before reaching agreement.

And after that they thought, " To avoid another quarrel, we must never talk about 'his mother."

Later they had a quarrel about ' money.' Again they stopped talking before reaching agreement.So, they had to begin avoiding that topic too.

After some years they had many topics which they couldn't mentioned to each other. 

That killed their communication.

Husband and wife should not allow quarrels to kill their communication.Instead, let's discuss each subject in a kind way. And if we begin to quarrel, let's continue talking kindly until we agreed on a decision.

Current Affairs: Notable Dates In Nigeria's History

 Precolonial Era!

In 19th century Bronzes was found at the town of Igbo-Ukwu are created.

Then in 10th century, Nri Kingdom begins.

11th century Borno was established as an Islamic States.

Reaching 15th century Hausa Kingdoms in the north was established as nominally Muslim States.

1472- Portuguese navigators reach Nigerian coast.

Then early 19th century Sokoto Caliphate went to war with the Yoruba States.

Middle to late 19th century, Christian Missionary activity began in Southern Nigeria.

Bible Gist: The First Man And Women

 What is different in this picture? Yes,it is the people in it.

They are the first man and woman.Who made them?

It was Good.Do you know his name? It is Jehovah. And the man and woman came to be called Adam and Eve.

This is how God made Adam.He took some dust from the ground and with it he formed a perfect body,a man's body.Then he blew into the man's nose, and Adam came to life.

God had a job for Adam.He told Adam to name all the different kinds of animals.Adam  may have watched the animals for a long time so he could pick the best names for them all.

While Adam was naming the animals he began to see something.Do you know what that was?

The animals all of them had mate. There were papa elephants and mama elephants, and there were papa Lions and mama Lions . But Adam had no one to be his mate.So God made Adam to fall into a deep sleep, and he took a rib bone from his side.

Using this rib, Jehovah God made a woman for Adam, and she became his wife.

How happy Adam was now! And think how happy Eve must have been to put in such a beautiful garden to live.